Friday, 23 October 2009

It's Hard To Say Goodbye.

My heart is hurting today. My best friend, Lynette's, Mum passed away this afternoon after a short but ugly fight against cancer. Lynette and I have been bestest buddies for 30 years this year and for that time, "Mrs P" has been a background part of my life too. Growing up, I spent a lot of time at Lynette's house during school holidays and weekends, because she lived on a farm and for a townie, there were sooooo many wonderful adventures to be had on a farm! The only drawback was the outside thunderbox! (Outdoor toilet consisting of a hollow wooden platform at seat-height and a drum below to catch ... well ... you get the picture! A bush loo!) Lynette's Dad taught me to drive and her Mum rescued me and patched me up along with Lynette after one of our 'adventures' or a tussle with one of her older brothers.

"Mrs P" (I quickly decided "Mrs Patterson" was too much of a mouthful to yell quickly if I needed rescuing from one of the brothers!!) is a wonderful and important part of my childhood memories and I am so pleased I was able to spend a day with her and Lynette in July when Lynette and I had our sewing day together. She had lost her hair thanks to the chemotherapy she had been receiving, but was in good spirits and absolutely fascinated by the applique process that Lynette and I were playing with. That day is now even more special to me, as it will be my last memory of her. I guess it just shows you that its not the big events that always matter most in life, its those little 'ordinary' moments of sharing time with friends and loved ones that are precious gems.

So ... today my heart hurts, for myself as I say goodbye to a person who played an important part in my growing up, but also as I ache for my wonderful best friend who has now lost both of her parents. I know the reality of life is, that as we get older, people who are important to us and who we love, will leave us, but for right now ... it just hurts.

Goodbye, "Mrs P".

KRIS

24 comments:

simplestitches said...

Kris, so sorry to hear about your friends mum....big big hugs to both of you ....cherish those beautiful memories together, it helps!
Julz

clare's craftroom said...

Nothing I say can help you or your friend but my kindest thoughts are with you both .

Jeanette said...

Kris i'm real sorry to hear about Lynettes loss. Sending big bear hugs your way. Hugs, Jeanette

bubbachenille said...

I'll be thinking of you over the next little while while you are hurting.....X O X O

Tudy said...

I am so sorry for your loss of this important person in your life. I have had many deaths in my life this year so I know what you are going through. Just remember the good times.

Joy said...

Oh Kris I'm so sorry ..... sending comforting prayers and hugs your way - and to Lynette to. Thinking of you both and I'm so, so sorry for your loss.
Hugs & Love,
Joy

Lurline said...

Oh, Kris - allow yourself to grieve and then you will be able to rejoice in something wonderful you have experienced in your life - you will be there for Lynette!
God bless you all - big hugs - Lurline♥

Carin said...

Kris I am sorry for your sadness and for the loss of a good friend. Prayers being said for you and Lynette and her brothers.

Gail said...

I know firsthand how difficult it is to watch someone you love die by inches so Lynette and her brothers have my sympathy. I also know that we make our own families and that sometimes they don't have the same DNA as we do so you have my sympathy as well. Time heals, sort of, in that you think of your own sorrow less and remember the blessings more.
Blessed Be.

Chookyblue...... said...

poor Lynette............thinking of you both.........

Anna Rosa Designs said...

Hi Kris,
Sorry to hear of such a great loss.

My sympathy to you and your friend Lynette.

Big bear hugs to both of you,
Anna

The Handmade Expo and Handmade Heaven said...

Big Hugs Kris.
Thoughts are with your through this hard time.


Liesa

Wendy B said...

Kris, my heart goes out to you and Lynette and family.
Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you
XX huge sugary hugs and love
Wendy

Debbie Lane said...

Oh babe...so sorry. Please tell Lynette that also for me. Love u.

Judy S. said...

Loving thoughts to you and Lynette. So sorry to hear this news. Big hugs, too.

Susan In Texas said...

Kris,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in all your lovely memories of her. My condolences.

Susan

quiltmom said...

Kris,
You have such nice memories of Lynette's mum- may they bring you comfort and help others to remember the joy she brought to all of your lives.
My sincere condolences to you all.

Warmest regards,
Anna

Jo in TAS said...

A sad but beautiful post. Rest in Peace Mrs P, Lynette is being cared for by a loving friend.
HUgs to you both
Jo
xxx

i cant sew said...

this post makes me think about the day that this happens to my friends...i didnt have a mother as our step mother abandoned me at the age of 12. the friends that i have now have been my friends since 1987 and each of their mothers mean so much to me. and just like you i will mourn their loss but even greater will be seeing my friends in pain at the loss of such wonderful selfless and loving mothers. my dear kris, i send you my prayers for strength and that you are able to continue to be a great support for lynette.

xxrosey

2ne said...

Sorry to hear - sending a big hugg to you both at this hard time.

PJ said...

peace to you and her family. what a nice tribute on your blog. it really is so hard...

Jenny of Elefantz said...

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
God bless her family, and those who will miss her - you included sweetie. xxx

Dawn said...

Sorry to hear the loss of 'Mrs P'... hugs to you and Lynnette.....keep remebering the great times you had... Huggles to you Dawn x x x

pulcino said...

Oh Kris, is a bit of time that is not going to see your blog.... I am very sorry for this great loss. A big hug to you and your friend Lynette.
Cristina

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